Where can women find real men? In a book, of course...





You've made it through to the middle of the Telegraph and, if you are
anything like me, you have scaled your personal intellectual Everest
for the day. But look at the girl over there, and that damn thick
square book on her lap. She must be on page 181, and when she turns the
page she's going to be on 183, then 185, 187. It's unbelievable. Where
does she get the hunger, the concentration?



Look at women in airport lounges, and look at their men. The men loll
and scratch. The women are transfixed, with the glassy expression of
souls fled to a happier world. Men mooch off to have a drink or flip
through the DVDs. Women read, and read, and read; and I do not believe
we have sufficiently considered this growing difference between the
sexes.



It's not just slush, my friends; it's not just stuff with embossed pink
covers. Women are now outreading men in virtually every category. The
other day, I saw a girl cantering through Money, by Martin Amis -
supposedly the most blokeish novel of the Eighties. Women read more
classics than men.



They read more action stuff. Wilbur Smith is now more read by women
than men, even though his plots are about crag-jawed South Africans who
spend their time shooting hippos, foiling hijacks, crashing Israeli
fighter planes and wresting golf-ball sized diamonds from the sunbaked
veld.



I was stunned the other day to discover that Flashman is just as
popular with women as with men. Yes, Flashman, the outrageous Victorian
bounder who kicks off the first novel in the series by raping his
father's girlfriend. What is going on? Why do women read so much more
than men, and what drug are they finding between the covers?



Part of the answer, of course, is simply that girls read more than boys
and, as every parent knows, the difference in literary appetite can be
frightening.



A survey six months ago for the National Literacy Trust found girls far
more likely to say that they read every day and that they enjoyed
reading "very much", whereas 20 per cent of boys said they would be
quite happy never to open a book again.



You might say that this gender difference has long been in operation,
ever since the bookish heroines of Jane Austen. But you could also see
this inter-gender "reading gap" as part of a more worrying trend. It is
a colossal and unremarked social change that this year far more women
than men enrolled at university, and the gap is growing every year.



That is a stunning turnaround, when you consider that it was only 20
years ago that the male-to-female ratio was about four to one. Women
are advancing to the front of the service-based economy, not just
literate but emotionally literate. It is a fantastic change, wonderful,
irresistible.



The question is whether this girl-friendly educational system is
starting to be skewed against natural male aptitudes - and there are
signs that it is.



Dr Tony Sewell, an educationalist attached to Imperial College, London,
says the whole process of instruction has become "feminised".



There is too much coursework, he says, and not enough of the
adrenaline-pumping terror of the exam. Boys need competition, he says,
or they slump back into apathy and thuggishness.



They need facts and dates, not empathy. Dr Sewell is dead right. Here
is the terrible truth about us boys. We may be devoted to our subjects.
We may be interested in learning for its own sake. But what really
actuates us, what makes us flog our way through the books on the
syllabus, is the simultaneous hope of coming top and the fear of coming
last.



I am afraid we want to thrash the other guy, in a way that girls, being
less aggressive, do not. If you take away those twin incentives, hope
and fear - and every effort is made to bleach them out of the system -
then boys can become apathetic and, as Dr Sewell points out, unsure of
the point of their studies.



Our schools are kinder and gentler, and of a piece with our generally
nicer society. If children are naughty, they cannot be asked to pick up
crisp packets unless they are issued with a special grabber, to spare
their little backs. They certainly may not be hit, and indeed there are
very few male primary teachers, since we are all in the grip of a
paedophile hysteria.



Boys leave these well-padded incubator schools and go out into a new
type of economy, cossetted, protected, regulated, in which the old male
advantages - being a risk-taking braggart - are at a discount. It is a
world in some ways perfect for women; and yet women, of course, are
increasingly aware that something is missing.



That is why the publishing industry (dominated by loving, anxious mums)
has produced this Dangerous Book for Boys. The publishing mums hope
that their little darlings will stop playing GameBoy and picking their
noses and do the kind of thing their grandfathers might have done, like
skinning a rabbit, darling. I fear that hope is forlorn.



And as for the girl on the Tube, with her nose buried in her novel, she
is on the same quest. The reason women devour so much fiction is that
it is the only place where they can find a certain idea of masculinity.
It is a spirit that has been regulated out of the workplace and
banished from the classroom.



Women turn to fiction, I would guess, because it is the last
reservation for men who are neither violent thugs nor politically
correct weeds, where a girl can still get her bodice ripped without the
bodice ripper being locked up.



As for boys, they may never even acquire the habit of reading.



It is too much to call it a crisis, but over the next 10 years we need
to steer education back towards some of the things that have been
disdained: success, failure, glory, disgrace, triumph, disaster - all
the things, in short, that spur the male ego to feats of competitive
exertion, the kind of thing that women are obliged to look for, these
days, in books.